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22.6.17

5 stages of love

I'm a curious kind of lady!
I'm lucky I know about Google so whenever my curious mind is on, I will google-ing and found out what I'm thinking about.Last week, I always ask myself "What is LOVE actually?". Yes, a common questions and I shouldn't asked about this. Everyone know what is love right? But, wait wait!!
I'm going to share what I found and yes, it's really useful for me.
Let's read it.

There Are 5 Stages Of Love, But Sadly Many Couples Stop At Stage 3
“The best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” – Audrey Hepburn
Ahh, love. It makes the world go around. It has inspired many poems, the most-read genre of books, and movies that make you grab a box of tissues. Nothing in life can compare to finding love. And when you locate that perfect partner, you plan to hold on tight forever. Till death do you part. So why do 40-50% of marriages end in divorce 1? Couples tend to end their relationships when they become disillusioned, not realizing it is simply one of many steps to a deeper, truer love.
The 5 Stages of Love
There are 5 stages of love that all relationships will eventually experience. Knowing this in advance can save you future heartache and problems.  It also can provide you with hope that the situation you find yourself in will pass. If you face adversity together and hang on, life will get better. You will become closer and love will endure.
Stage 1: Passion and playfulness
You meet the man of your dreams. He’s cute, fun and downright sexy. He’s filled your waking thoughts. You can’t think straight and getting a text from him will make your heart flutter. You are falling fast.
In this first stage of love, your hormones run the show. You flirt, get butterflies in your stomach and heart, toss your hair back often and laugh a lot more. Falling in love makes you glow. Full of playfulness and passion, stage one of love, often called the honeymoon stage, tends to be everyone’s favorite because it’s fun.
 Stage 2: Getting serious
Enter stage two. You still make a great couple. You hold hands in the park and cuddle up together to watch a movie, but something has changed. You’ve moved in together, maybe even got married and invested in a house. There might be a new baby in the picture or one on the way. The craziness of that honeymoon phase has calmed down.
You still have sex, but it’s more loving, more meaningful. And probably more rushed if you have a child. But now there are bills to worry about. Rent. Babysitters. Adult- stuff. That fun time has run its course and your relationship has entered the serious zone.
Stage 3: What happened?
Life seems to have rushed by and left you somewhere in the dust. You have friends living in Bali, others attending fun after-work parties and you are stuck going home each night to clean up a house, do laundry and make dinner that no one seems to appreciate. You feel as if your partner takes you for granted. What happened to those cuddles on the couch? And the last time he held your hand was to show you the mess the kids made in the bathroom. Stage three makes you seriously wonder if you lost that loving feeling!
What happened? Did you fall out of love? Most couples begin to feel resentment towards their partners at this stage in their relationship. They wonder what they missed in life had they stayed single, and wonder if being single would be a better place to be.
By this point, all illusions have been stripped awayYou find yourself arguing moreThe bills may be piling up, and kids proving to be a challenge.Romance seems like work and you can’t be bothered to squeeze in the time. You just want it to end. And most people do just that, end their relationship.
 Stage 4: Climbing down from the pedestal
If you’ve stuck it out through the tough times of stage three, you will be rewarded. You and your partner have fallen from the pedestals that you placed each other on. You become real people, not gods descended from Mount Olympus. All veils are stripped away. You acknowledge that your partner has dreams and also problems, just like you. Stage three let you see the frustrations in your relationship. Stage four allows you to accept them and work through them.
You and your partner can face life and battle adversity as a teamYou have reached the stage of real lovenot love held up on romance and passion or stuck together because of a child, bulove based on mutual understanding and acceptance of each other.
Stage 5: Working together as a team
Now that you’ve both embraced each other’s weaknesses and faults along with strengths and desires, you can combine forces and make the world a better place.
What social issues are you both passionate about? Do you both believe in healthy food choices? Get involved in a CSA co-op and help out on an organic farm or making farm fresh produce deliveries to people who can’t get out. Love the arts? Join a local cultural club or start a project or take a class together. Collaborate on an e-book. Volunteer at a national park.
As the old saying goes: “couples who play together, stay together.” By all means, keep your separate hobbies, but find a common ground and make it a project to work on together.
Don’t let your relationship become a statistic. When you arm yourself about the stages of love, it will help you get through those tough times to reach the other side. Love can be beautiful, but it is far from perfect. Nothing worth having comes easy. Hang on and love will endure.
References
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American Psychological Association: Research on Marriage and Divorce
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22 June 2017
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18.6.17

10 valuable lessons I learned from my Dad(Amai)

Selamat Tau Amai me de Amai ngan Amai mek.
We called Father as Amai in Kenyah language.
Dalau tau meki,tambah-tambah teka bimpin le ka toa le ne.Obak teka le ke taan eda julung- ilu ngan nyekapu eda. Amai mek jan ne ca peribadi je ake lemoto mawa' ngan mala'.Amai mek jan  ne ca peribadi je ake tisen un ngelan Tuhan je ake tisen biuk cung u u ilu ti.
Un tepo, nta pe oban janan udip ji uku baan u de atai penawai le keluk.


13.6.17

Kasmaran



Hi!
It's Monday!
I feel Kasmaran. 
What is Kasmaran??
You want to know? Google it now and start to laugh ,okay?
This post was inspired by one of song that I listened in Spotify apps, it's Kasmaran by Jaz. He is Indonesian singer and I really love his voice.And, this song really fueled my love dovey feeling. 
I'm Kasmaran..
Let's talk about love this time.


8.6.17

How to make a right decision?


Hi there!
In the era of Google, whatever you want to know, you can easily search for it and everything will come out for you instantly.
Before, I'm that kind of person. I always google-ing whatever I want to know including about my faith, how God looks like and even search for "Is God is real?". I'm a just curious lady that want to know the truth.I'm not saying google-ing is bad but to know about God, you can't just google-ing Him but really read about Him on Bible(The words of God).
Sound religious again? I'm not ashamed sharing about my faith here on my blog but for today, I will sharing something that helps me a lot in this part of my life.
How to make a right decision?.
6.6.17

Mistakes I wish I never done at 20s

Hi there!
Happy Tuesday! I hope you have a wonderful one!
Today is another day as we will start to count days for Christmas 2017. I can't believe in 6 months Christmas will be here.Besides waiting for Christmas, I also approached my late 20s. This year will be the last year I'm being on my 20s.Looking back, I was totally amazed at my own life journey.I was fall, get up, fall again and get up again and again. There are so many different kinds of situation that's make me lived that kind of life. Without further due, I want to share my mistakes I made at my 20s and I hope you'll learn from this.

5.6.17

If today is my last day


Are you scared of death?
Are you ready to leave this world now?
This morning, I face another almost accident in my life.I feel so scared and I’m shaking…
This make me think “What if today is my last day?”
4.6.17

What this girl thinking?

Happy Sunday~
I just can't believe what I did yesterday in my life.
It's dream come true but let's be honest I sometimes feel fear and doubt on myself.
But, I believe everything will be okay.
I trust God with all of my heart on this.
Whatever will happen, I will trust Him with my whole heart.
I know, there will be hard day but I will try my best to be strong and keep going. I can't imagine how that day will be but I will try my very best.
#strongerkeriitleto
#trustingod
#keriitletobigdream

Love,
Aya

3.6.17

The best yet to come


Happy Saturday!
It's 3rd June 2017
One of the days that I will never ever to forget in my life.
One by one, the dreams come true! It's taken almost 5 years++ to make it REALLY come true.
I'm a strong believer in God and what God's plan for my life.
I don't know what's ahead of me but I'm trusting God and I believe the best yet to come.
I trust in God and what God's plan for my life.
When the moment has come, I will reveal it to you.
For now, let's it become under wrapped and work on it.
Dream big, work for it and never ever forget to obey God in everything you do.

"Apa pun yang kamu perbuat, perbuatlah dengan segenap hatimu seperti untuk Tuhan bukan untuk manusia."
Kolose 3:23

1.6.17

[Life Tips] Kenyah girl in the city

Hi there!
I feel bad for not writing so frequent on my blog nowaday.
My life is so busy and I always feel sleepy whenever I'm home. Yes, I'm complaining now and give a reason for not writing here. This article was written in my car (I'm not driving so I can write/jot down). I feel like I want to share about my experience as a Kenyah girl in the city this time. I don't know if it's interesting or what? But, I love to sharing so without futher due, let's read.