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24.8.21

How's life so far...

 

I just can't believe how it's already August 2021!

In 4 months we will say goodbye to 2021! I thought 2021 will be like 2019, I mean we will live like we used to but it's not, its more worst than 2020. Anyhow, I am not complaining as I've learned so much in 2021 so far. 

I am nobody to share my life update with you guys but I think my loyal readers deserved to know what's really happening in my life so far haha. I hope you enjoy reading and learn something ya!


I moved out of my comfort zone

I can say this is the highlight of my 2021 so far! 

I've bravely moved out of my comfort zone which is my job. I've been working at the same company for 9 years and I am really comfortable with the salary, environment, and colleagues and for few recent years, I've been feeling so stuck and I really want to do something new in a new environment! and finally, I determined to move out from it and I am glad I did that because I can say, I see new opportunities, I get to know new people, learn new skills, nervous about new things, no longer nervous about the same damn things that I can't change no matter how hard I tried. I feel so proud of myself for doing this and this is a reminder for me also that God will never leave me no matter what situation I am in.


Explore new opportunity

After 2 months break from my career, I finally got a new job in which I can explore many things, dealing new stuff, and learn about so many new things. I love that! I still feel anxiety about my work but I always remind myself, this is normal and doesn't think too much about it. What the most important is to explore more new things and always do my best every day.


I experienced my son being admitted to the hospital 2x in one month

I will never ever forget this and I think this is the worst experience so far. But, it makes me learned a lot about parenthood and sacrifices during this hardest time. It really tested my endurance as a working mom. I feel guilty for doing my job while my son is sick and I feel bad for taking leave to take care of my son over my work. I just can't deal with that feeling! But, at the end of the day, my son's health is always a priority so I cut that guilty feeling over my work and when I back to work, I do my best and recover all the pendings.


Trying to do business online

I think this is fun to do and I think if I can make it, I can earn extra income. So, I really try my best to do business online like being an agent for a cosmetics brand and try to create a gifting business too but as a working mom it's not easy for me to do it all at one time. I allowed myself to slowly do it. If you are interested to know my online business, you can visit my Instagram account,

@keriitleto.co


Trying my best to be consistent in blogging

I've quit blogging for some time because of the cost. Then, I am back again because I feel this is my passion or something that I am good at. I love writing and sharing my life experience with my readers. I feel happy whenever I posted blog articles and happier when I got feedback or comments from my readers. It's not a lot but one comment already make me happier.


Family Family

I think I never have a free time now unless I stay up to write on my blog haha. I write on my blog while my husband and my son sleeping. Its all about them. But, I am happy to do all things for them.


Thanks God for always taking care of me and my family. I will never ever take this for granted! I will always to living good and always care for others.


Finally, I hope you find this article interesting haha and you enjoy it!


Love,

Aya


21.8.21

How its really feel after get out from comfort zone?

 


I still remember the day I am so determined to get out of my comfort zone, I think that is one of the scariest day in my life. But, I just go for it! I don't think of any other else, my only goal, I need to leave it and never look back. Thinking of this now, I feel so proud of myself. 

So, thats why I wanted to share this post,just to let you guys know how its really feel after get out from comfort zone.?


What is a comfort zone?

“a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a steady level of performance.” or in simple words, a state where we know what we do and not use so much energy and mind to it.


What & where is my comfort zone?

My comfort zone is my previous job. I'm been working on that job at the same company for 9 years and 4 months, it's been too long. For me to decide to get out from there is one of the hardest decision. This is due to I love the colleagues I'm working with, I know the environment there and many things I'm familiar with but I no longer feel I learn something for my career journey and I feel its not exciting anymore there so thats why need to change.

I tender my resignation letter on 24 December 2020 and I'm in 2 months' notice after that, which means I will be gone from that company on February 2021. Then, that February finally come even though I feel its too slow to come hahaha. The day finally come and upcoming days become more scary and uncertain.

So, how its really feel after I get out from comfort zone.?

1. You will feel free

The first and second week, I do feel FREE!

I really love that feeling, feel so good! No more kena kejar deadline and kena kejar orang haha I just feel good about this, it's been too long. I spent most of my time with my son and taking care of our son. 

I love the feel the heavy load finally get off my shoulders. 


2. You will feel scared

After 2 weeks, I started to feel scared! haha this is due to I still need to pay my bad debts and some bills. I started to feel scared I will never manage to get a new job haha but I just go for it! Never look back and I told myself, scared is normal but never ever look back.


3. You will fail sometimes

After I quit, I actively looking for a new job. I go for several interviews and there's a day I got a rejection, hanging, and no answer but I know, the good day will come soon! I did fail some of my interviews but I make it for one interview and I got the job!!  Don't be scare to fail, just go for it!


4. You will enter your learning zone and develop new skills

This one is one of the most challenging phases. After you get the new job, you will need to learn how to do the job and there are many new things you will learn and these new things will develop your new skills.


Conclusion

Get out from your comfort zone is never easy but if you determine to do it, you can do it! Even after get out from comfort zone, coming days more challenging. So, that is the process, need to face it and be brave. If you feel like you want to get out from comfort zone, be mentally prepare for it, its not going to be easy but it will worth it to face the new challenges, learn new things, meet new people, change life routine and many more. I encourage you, don't be scared. Go for it, you going to like it.



1.8.21

6 life lessons I learned in 2021 (Jan- July)


Can't believe that it's already August 2021!
I've been through so much these 7 months of 2021. The big thing that has happened is I've quit my long-time job (9 years 4 months) without a proper plan, looking for a new job and financial issue. 
From these ups and down moments, I want to share what I've learned along the way.
Hope it will useful for you.

 1. In God, there's hope

After I take a break from my career for 2 months, I am actively looking for a job, I honestly say, it's not an easy journey. There's a day I feel hopeless and there's a day I feel in God there's hope! Then, I was thinking if I choose to feel hopeless, there's nothing happen and I will feel unhappy. So, I choose to always feel hopeful in God even though there seems no hope, rejections after rejections and sometimes I got a "bad" interviewer but I believe that God sent me that kind of person so I learned something from that. I do more preparation, be more brave and confident about what I can do. 

In whatever situation in this life, never lose hope! God has future for you! I write this besar-besar in front of my home office. So, I always remember not to lose hope.


2. Be brave to leave your comfort zone

As I said, I left my long-time job end of 2020 and my notice period is 2 months so I officially left my job on 19 February 2021. End of 2020, I am determined to leave my comfort zone. I no longer feel growth in that job and it's lead to my major depression disorder too so I determine to just leave it! I am not a tree! The lesson here, if you already feel no growth and you feel it's not good for you anymore, do something! Its not worth it to keep staying and do what you dont want to do. I rather face new challenges than saying " here I am again at the same place and same stress and never-ending". For me personally, its not worth it to stay at comfort zone. I know it's scary but be brave to explore new opportunities, God will lead the way, no worries.


3. Everything needs process, be patience.

After I left my comfort zone, I am actively looking for a job because I need to work to pay my debts and for my future as well. I really become impatience sometimes because as the day goes by, my saving is draining and I really need a job. Then, I realized this is one of the process I need to be in when I left my comfort zone. So, I need to train my brain to be patient and always remind myself, the good day will come and it will be the right timing. And, yes the good day has come! I got the job exactly after 2 months of break and after countless prayers and several interviews. So, be patience!


4. You can change your life direction anytime you want.

I remember I read somewhere, you can change your life, you're not a tree!

Whatever you want to do in life, make sure its make you feel happy, satisfied and good to many. If you feel unhappy, you will stress doing things but if you love doing things, you will be passionate and happy to do. I've been so unhappy with my career for the recent few years and I am desperately want to change and I bravely do it this year and I am happy I do it because I can face new challenges, new environments, and meet new people. It's not easy to change but change needs to be made for new kinds of challenges in life. When there are challenges, there are new skills to be developed.


5. What could go right if I do this?

Whenever we decided to do something, most of the time, we think "What could be wrong things happen if I choose to do this?". I've learned that this is not the right question to ask whenever you want to do something new. I've learned to change from that question to "What could be the right thing that happens if I choose to do this?

Again, I take example from my experience. I've been wanted to quit my previous job many times already and whenever I think of that, I always think what could be wrong things happen if I choose to do that? And, this makes me scared and just forget about it. Then, end of 2020, I changed my question and mindset and I was determined to quit and never look back after that. Now, I can say, I am doing the right thing in my life. I faced new challenges and new things, thanks to God.


6. When there's peace, it's the right thing to do

In life, there will be many times you will face choices. 

You always wanted to make the right choice. Whatever choice and decisions I make in my life, I always ask God about it. Back when I want to get engaged and even married, I asked God, this is the right things to do? I believe God speak to me in the way I feel peace toward it. Of course there bridezilla moment but our relationship feel peace so I go for it.

Same goes to when I decided to quit my job. I know there a lot of things but as point no 5, I always choose to think what could go right if I do this? And, I feel peace when think of it.


CONCLUSIONS

This half of the year has been such a ride, ups and low, especially during my jobless time. I feel so low but that makes me closer to God. I can say, I am so proud of myself for choosing to change my life direction, get out of my comfort zone and I am always ready for new challenges and new things.

I hope these life lessons inspired you to do the best in your life.